“Live Your Life” – Everyone says it, but do you know how

Posted: September 15, 2015 By Kye Husbands

How many times do you have to hear live your life before it’s too late.  That may seem like a rhetorical question, but hopefully you didn’t treat it as one.  So seriously, if you haven’t, do you really feel like you’re living your life?  Let’s look at this a little differently.  Do you spend 50 hours each week in your office? How about your commute, how much time does that eat up?  One hour each way or is it a little more like 3 or 4 hours per day sitting in traffic.  How about your weekends?  Do you spend your Saturday’s running errands and before you know it, the Sunday dreaded feeling of work tomorrow is setting in all the while feeling like you haven’t done anything exciting or interesting.

If this sounds like your life, you’re not alone, but I’m sure that doesn’t make you feel any better, so what’s it going to take for you live some life. 

Steve Jobs use to say to himself everyday, if today was my last day alive would I do what I plan on doing today. If the answer was no, he would do whatever that other thing was.  I know, Steve Jobs was rich and all that jazz, but it doesn’t change the facts.  The key thing to note there was that he made a decision.   Look how many people, carry over vacation days every year, on top of working 50 plus hours a week.  I hope this isn’t you, by the way.  So decide right now, you heard me, let’s make it a mantra .

I deserve to spend some quality time with me.

Say it so you can hear your own voice, better yet, say it out loud and repeat it 3 times.

Now we’re cooking with gas.  You’re half way there.  For the next half let’s make it a conviction by telling someone.  That someone can be a close friend or co-worker, someone who wants you to succeed and they’ll support you along the way.  Give them a call tell them you’ve been doing some reflecting and you just set a mantra for yourself and you want to share it with them.

How does that feel now?  Do you see how far you’ve come already.  Perhaps you stumbled into this blog, or someone that cares about you shared it with you. Either way they're are no coincidences in life and you’ve read this far for a reason and more importantly you’ve made a commitment to yourself and that’s positive.

So you’re probably asking so what am I going to do then? How can I add some excitement to my life?

First I am going to share a few tips with you so that you can add some spice into your life, as well as answer those questions.

  1. Take a different route home or mode of transit.  If you commute home every day, perhaps you can car pool with someone else, or take the bus or train.  I spent sometime in scooter city a little while back (Vietnam) and for those of you that have visited HCM, you know exactly what I am talking about.  Everyone moves around on a scooter. The funny thing is I absolutely hated driving prior and somehow I felt so free riding a scooter that I enjoyed it so much that I get it. I get why people love the open road on a motor bike. It’s simply feels like freedom. Variety is truly the spice of life.   
    Research on happiness has uncovered that:
    1. 50% of happiness is determined by our genetics. Scientists refer to this as our set point. 
    2. 10% of happiness is related to our circumstances. Things like our income, job/career, social status, health, etc. I know what you're thinking only 10%!
    3. 40% of happiness is determined by Intentional Activity.  Actions that we can do on a regular basis to be happier include simple things like constantly varying what we do or taking a different route to work, because change is important and variety is the spice of life.  For me that change was about conquering my fear of water by learning to surf.  I had a near death experience when I was 17, actually I was dead, and I developed a fear of water for years.
  2. Dust off that bucketlist that you’ve been contemplating your entire life and let’s not wait until it’s too late.  Better yet,  how about you create a new xcitelitelife list.  The only difference between the two is that all too often a bucket list becomes a #$%$it list and we aren’t going to settle for that.  So what the hell am I talking about.   Well, you made a conviction a few minutes ago to make some quality time for yourself and then you wanted to know how you would accomplish that.  Well, at Xcitelife you are going to make your conviction known to the entire Xcitelife community. It’s your bucket list, except it’s your Xcite list of xperiences, which means your actually going to do it. More importantly, you can search for xhilirating things to do an book new unique experiences to kick start your new exciting life.
  3. Journal.  The most successful people in this world do and I'm sure you wouldn't mind being grouped with them. Journaling can help you reflect as you have here on your life, get in touch with your inner feelings and start the healing process sometimes. Journaling can also help you achieve your goals and that's always a good thing, so it begins with writing them down.  For me, journaling really helped me get in tune with my intuition and my creativity. I started to trust that inner voice more and pursue my dreams with more vigour as a result, it's the reason you are reading this blog by the way. 

So there you have it and trust me when I say you’ve already done the hard part.  The thing about happiness is that it can help you get your other goals.  Afterall who wants to waste 1/7 of their life dreading monday's, so embrace being a lifer - an Xcitelifer - and embrace change. 

Welcome to the Xcitelife community and see you on the other side.